Family and the fashion female archetype

If one follows certain characters on screen its like tracing the growth of particular people in real time like looking back at a dear diary type thing. The Fashion Family Oriented career woman archetype and Meryl Streep in particular is awesome. The archetypal fashion woman is a fascinating study. In the movie "American Beauty" the fashion woman as a family woman is out of place, fake, contrived and seems to have contempt for her husband and an ignorance of what her actual daughter was going through. The great theme of the movie is that in spite of her husband's creepy obsession with his daughters friend he actually did the right thing when push came to shove. He had sincerity that recognized the reality and was more adapted to the reality of his situation with his family. It was like the point was the right to contempt isnt competence in a skill or power as much as the ability to interact with the world as it is with truth and sincerity. The distinction between competence and self respect is clear. It culminated with when he and his wife were reconnecting and she was like "Lester youre going to spill beer on the couch." And he responded that it was just a couch and made a powerful statement that "this isn't life. This is just stuff and its become more important to you than living well honey thats just nuts." Contrast that with "The Devil Wears Prada" when Andy chuckled at Miranda saying that she was still "learning about this stuff." What I thought was beautiful is that the fashion female archetype in her element creates something beautiful and has self respect and built Andy's character into a strong more confident young woman. Some people aren't as good at family as they are in their careers. She also dealt with family problems but they were the background to her being her most authentic self. In one scenario her archetype was a joke confused and out of touch and in another she was more in tune with what was going on and always 12 steps ahead of everyone else. In the recent movie of "Little Women" Meryl Streep played that same archetype. She nurtured the independence of the women and saved the family with her strength and nurturing clarity and perception. She could just as easily been a fashion woman but it didn't matter where those wisdoms came from. She used them with the same intimacy as in "The Devil Wears Prada" to identify and nurture the best in her family. Family wisdom is using worldly wisdom to make your family strong completely out of context with the world thats specifically and purely and in some cases naively situational that makes the wisdom about making ones family and home strong. (My favorite scene is when she berated her nieces love interest in racially prejudiced terms that allowed her to just say her truth that made her more herself. The beauty of that clarity self acceptance and strength in the presence of clear disapproval with honesty is the best example of home wisdom ever on the movie screen in my opinion.) The movie the hours is also an interesting comparison of a woman feeling small in the presence of a poet while fashion seemed like false comfort. And then that same scene in "The Devil Wears Prada" comes to mind. Her fashion wisdom IS beautiful if she is in her element and not in someone elses element learning someone else's lesson. But she wouldn't have found that strength if she hadn't. Ive recently experienced that at Kroger and its made things better. Implying that family wisdom isnt limited to blood relatives, but that wisdom wouldn't exist unless it was born from blood relations.