Why Being mutually damaged isn't a good way to select a mate

Self pity and lifestyle would hide the fact that mutual compatibility means that pride comes before self pity in relationships in being able to understand each other and work with one another as a workable unit. Self pity doesn't work for love. Some days it does and some days it doesn't. That's why calling a woman damaged doesn't mean that she's a good fit for you just because your damaged too. A woman needs a man who can support her, not necessarily cry with her. (By support I don't mean financially. I mean spiritually with wisdom and good character. Money has a way of being a deep dark black hole that doesn't support one soul, and definitely can't support two souls.)