The pros and cons of self pity

I can understand how self pity is a good unifier of people. It helps people to recognize that we're all just basically human and it helps us to recognize how to make things less harsh on each other. But the problem with self pity as an ideology is that we are puzzle pieces of varying types of coherence and incoherence that isn't just buying a stranger a soda. But the problem with that observation is what do these puzzle pieces revolve around? It's not around any one person, as though one person is more important than another, because self pity does refute that idea. (Every ethic has a message. That's the problem with right wingers who use pride as a racial ideology to shit all over self pity. The holocaust proved that the real central ethic isn't race. Sorry Hitler.) I've been untouchable in terms of people who were using self pity to compete with me to prevent pain. Self pity people committed the non sequitor logical fallacy made the unjustified conclusion that my observation that race meant that my central ethic was race, even though it isn't. My central ethic can be best summerized by my recent post on Facebook. "When I was a kid my mother and father split up. I thought people were dumb for making some spiritual purpose more important than family. I asked God how to preserve that innocence. He said that was the point. That perfect spirituality just has a good mother and father and doesn't worry about the world. That coherence with the world is only possible if i preserved the ethic of mother and father and family. And thats why im eternally innocent. None of the complex issues can compete with my value of a safe home that goes all the way back to my childhood. To my Uncle Jack. That's the God simplicity you were looking for. Everything else that looked otherwise were just adaptations to a complex world to preserve that very simple ethic. Which some bitter people dismissed as childish until that conviction led to strength intelligence wisdom and courage that made me ridiculously smart as someone once said. I have a simple ethic and maintained it because I have God given courage that should shame the good people out there who lost their way." With the follow up post: "There is no higher ethic than family and freedom because anything that messes with family and freedom would destroy the goals you sought to serve." People blamed the race ethic of me protecting my family with the African self genocide in Africa, but recently that's been refuted by recent disclosure of quantum gravitational ceilings. If my family or family ethic fell, then their situation would get worse, not better, because their ceiling would fall. And you can't have it both ways. Self pity kinda depends on things not being changeable in some way so we might as well not make it harder than it already is. Pride in serving one's family and the pity for the pain of the world is mutually compatible. Not only that, if one doesn't exist, then the other doesn't either. Life requires family of the blood type that validates a mother father in the home first. A bitter pill to swallow for those who couldn't be good to their family, but let your self pity console you.