Ethic of dignity

 Dignity is the best and most reliable form of ethic I've found. 

Not superficial dignity like always leaving a room or arriving to work on time. These things are important, but not the most important. If they were, then the universe would have come premade with grocery stores and shopping malls already premade with name tags and uniforms ready. Since thats not how it happened, and the universe gave birth to these qualities, its clear and obvious that being clean neat and tidy and organized isnt the most important ethic in the universe and isnt the highest form of dignity. Or isnt the most important form of dignity even if their existence is the highest form. 

Dignity of personal wholeness is the most practical truth of dignity. 

Saint Francis is the best version of that. 

In the Franciscan prayer he said "let me seek to  comfort rather than be comforted." This implies that empathy, presuming empathy exists at all, isnt about circling the wagons against outsiders. The reason for that deductive rejection of insider outsider logic is that history and background checks is what fuels trust in insider outsider priorities. 

The past of anyone is always messy without form and painful. And cant predict a persons behavior. It takes living a dignified ethic to recognize a dignified ethic. Past history cant and couldnt identify a persons current ethic. Only a person with an ethic can identify another persons current worth and could do so immediately upon meeting a person.

Dignity is the ethic of present. Lack of dignity is lack of ethics entirely. The without form being the tell of lack. 

The strength and security of dignity would make ones personal security obvious to ones self. 

This and only this allows for an individual to experience and recognize when compassion is appropriate or not. 

Sometimes a persons history is genuinely offensive. 

The way around that is if reacting to that person's history would cause me to act unethically everywhere else that would make my life personally unliveable, with the memory that outside me as a person the universe already has a logic I cant improve on. 

Then I can without fear accept a situation as it is without fear with the general insight that expectancy in anyone is pretentious and a moral slip i can reject without concern for a persons past. 

I got this from working with the remorseful version of the entity of the serial killer Richard Ramirez. 

His insight taught me that when i was the most fargone in my most degraded form it gave me nothing to lose but holding on to doing the right thing. 

That doesn't excuse his horrific crimes, but lessons can learned by study more than fear. 

I definitely dont just let anyone around just because they taught me something. Often that would have nullified the lesson and made "gratitude" meaningless. 

But friendship is best when i value my own wholeness and ethic and fuck everybody else. 

Thats when i know who my friends are.