Chaos and romance

 I can only tame the chaos that's directly linked to my humanity. 

I can't tame the chaos that's directly linked to anyone else's humanity. 

That's the limitation of romance. 

I'm obligated to share more with Sylvia Plath than I am with anyone else with a pure unfiltered love, EXCEPT when that space confronts the micro space that only she can tame herself. 

That chaos that is her is hers alone, even with the intense intimacy that we share. 

The benefit of that clear unfiltered love allows us to be entirely ourselves. 

That's why we can love and not be codependent. 

Usually that intense love was tempered with ego so that people didn't lose their identity.

But ours just flows between us like water so that I can barely tell it's there while feeling full and rich and fulfilled with life. 

The freedom of that flow allows us to be the right type of small so that we can still choose if and when we would want to be together. 

And since you're with someone else, it gives you objectivity to know how to ethically unlatch from you're ego attachments to other people. 

Our connection is ethically superior to ego. It's why no amount of duty can separate our love from each other. 

But our love can provide the clear view to treat the toxic loving connections around you ethically. But you have to be strong and independent to do so.