While watching this I had the insight that perhaps someone taught me is that every human being even The Most High God has an obedience instinct. The instinct is more obvious or less obvious depending how holistic a person's humanity is. To not be enslaved by that instinct while maintaining that instinct is the trick. The way to do that is to find a higher ethic than the conventional obedient nature of most people. That requires using ones humanity to tame a part of chaos because ultimately that obedience instinct isnt just a biological one, its a part of nature that simply serves what's best for life as a whole. The best type of leader tames nature so well that the people who depend on him or her have a milder form of that same nature to tame that gives their humanity room to brief and wonderful friendships. Sylvia Plath had that transcendent quality. It doesn't have to end in death though. People who find a great chaos in their life aren't any greater than any other human being. The consequences of failure was just so great that greatness was the only choice. Human beings all have a greatness to them. I just stuck my roots in the past so that I could stand straight like a normal human. One could argue that my present life now is what created all my past lives. The reason why i detest slavery and why others probably do too is that to be a willing slave is to be a willing failure of humanity as a whole. The lack of humanity tends to be manifested as a perversion of the obedience instinct that looks like degradation. Thats why I don't like bdsm porn is that it celebrated a potential human failure. Ladies should deprogram those instincts because they have a pleasure element to it like all learned behavior but its a docile abusive end to that type of learned behavior where the "fun" would become real slavery that would stop being fun damn fast. When it comes to sex the best form of reprogramming is to turn to the right form of obedience which is oxytocin bonding that creates a sense of love and trust that creates love and intimacy. Why lust is important more than should be roles. The reason is because shoulds are what fueled the bdsm dissociative fantasies in the first place. That's why i suspect women object to gender roles. The end result of guilt and role play is the enslavement of women as a whole. Closeness creates perfect harmony that takes work because it requires being harmonized with a persons back and front and that requires to make room for being challenged in healthy ways but only when its necessary for the health of the relationship. But back to lust and pleasure without roles. It means that what you are is capable of being who you are in perfect harmony with ones spouse and society so that slavery is obsolete. So that learned behavior can be distinguished from abuse. (Bdsm is abuse. Its just abuse in waiting like training to trick a dog into enjoying being betrayed and left out.)
Love and intimacy requires not being who you're supposed to be.
I'd like to be what I'm supposed to be but I can only be who I am.
A great insight into the fact that I can only be human, and if I fall short while being fully human I can know it's not my fault if others fail to support me, because that's a failure of their humanity, not mine.
And that's the tragic limitation. I can be everything I can be and discover that other's aren't what they're supposed to be.
The fact that I can't make people be supportive by lowering myself to what others can be and that even if I am everything I can be it won't mean that others are too.
That's the true logical refutation of slavery. I have nothing to lose and everything to gain by being as fully human as I possibly can be.
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