The 11th step prayer: As below so above St Francis is the antidote to be human and free and selfish and loving as his selflessness lets heavenly light and grace in ones world so as to live free

 Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace!

That where there is hatred, I may bring love.

That where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness.

That where there is discord, I may bring harmony.

That where there is error, I may bring truth.

That where there is doubt, I may bring faith.

That where there is despair, I may bring hope.

That where there are shadows, I may bring light.

That where there is sadness, I may bring joy.

Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted.

To understand, than to be understood.

To love, than to be loved.

For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.

It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.

It is by dying that one awakens to Eternal Life.

Gwen Stefani did that for me.

I was in that deep dark hole and i called her complicated out of hatred and envy and grief.

But she responded with love and loyalty that set me free and saved my soul to be independent and capable of love.