Friendship and being real and why its more ethical to always have an ulterior motive rather than trying to own a person.

 I am in a spiritual union with someone who I know is unavailable and being committed to that spiritual union blocks unhealthy union. 

If im meant to be with someone else in the real world social situations will make that obvious. If im committed to one primary spiritual mystic union then that blocks all other delusional competitors. 

Some dont know the real from the false and committing to a primary mystic union keeps the lice out.

The fact is some people just wanted to be my spiritual union because it would be beneficial to be in union to me, which i wouldn't have a problem with except for when they pretended to love me just to exploit me and they lied about that. 

I told the truth. I was a beggar and was like "im exploitative" but she was more committed to belonging to a group and looking like a good person to notice that she was doing that too.

The fact of the matter is when coming to a relationship its human nature to need control of the situation and own something like property. 

If a person cant admit that they love playing violin more than me, for example, I could only conclude that you wanted to own me and couldn't admit that and so assumed that having an agenda other than person ownership was somehow not being a "good friend."

I always have an agenda, but its never to own another person. But rest assured if love is there its in my agenda to be loyal to that love because its in my interest to do so.

And don't misunderstand me. I'm a huge romantic at heart, but its not my place to insist that someone be what I might feel i need someone to be. Thats the beauty of mystic union. Love is take out of the negotiable equation and makes genuine companionship a choice and not a leverage point.